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We often see anxiety as an enemy, but the right amount of anxiety is like a car’s accelerator: too little, and you won’t move forward; too much, and you may lose control; just the right amount can push your focus and energy to a peak. This can be understood through the Inverted-U Hypothesis — performance is best when your level of arousal is moderate.

How can you tell if you are at the “just right” level? With moderate anxiety, your heart beats a little faster, your mind feels clear, and you feel ready to act. With too much anxiety, you may breathe rapidly, feel stomach discomfort, or repeatedly check and avoid things. With too little anxiety, you feel unmotivated, easily distracted, and procrastinate.

To adjust anxiety to the ideal level, try these three steps:

First, prepare thoroughly. Break big tasks into small steps, set a time and standard for each step, and focus on what you can control.

Second, stabilize your body and mind. Practice square breathing (inhaling, holding, exhaling, and holding again for equal counts of 4 seconds), do short stretches, imagine success, and create a fixed “pre-performance routine.”

Third, use kind self-talk. Change “I must not fail” into “I am getting there step by step.”

Besides, before an exam, interview, or speech, rate your anxiety on a scale of 1 to 10, and aim to keep it between 4 and 6. If it goes above 7, pause, take deep breaths, walk around or drink some water, then return to your main task. Also, remember the basics: regular sleep, moderate exercise, and a balanced diet. If anxiety remains high and affects your sleep, appetite, or mood, please seek professional help.

Learning to manage anxiety helps you perform at your best.

Many people mistakenly believe that “being positive” means getting rid of emotions like sadness, anger, and frustration. However, emotions are like an internal dashboard—negative signals remind us that our needs are not being met, boundaries are being crossed, or goals may need adjustment. If we simply ignore these signals, stress builds up inside us, eventually leading to burnout or relationship conflicts.

To cultivate healthy positive thinking, we can start with small habits that help us connect with our emotions:

Step one is to allow the emotion to exist. Use simple phrases to name the emotion, such as “I’m feeling a bit anxious right now,” while paying attention to physical reactions and the situation that triggered it.

Step two is acceptance and regulation. Understand that emotions are normal physiological and psychological responses. There is no need to immediately deny or suppress them.

Step three is expression and transformation. Find suitable ways to release emotions, such as journaling, drawing, or exercising, allowing feelings to flow.

Step four is reframing perspective. Ask yourself: “Aside from the worst-case scenario, could there be other possibilities? What is the smallest, most feasible step I can take?” This helps build sensitivity to our emotions, rather than being overwhelmed by them.

In addition to learning to connect with emotions, it’s also helpful to cultivate a support system—sharing feelings with trusted people and seeking professional help when needed.

True positivity is not about eliminating negative emotions, but treating them as messages that help us better understand our current situation and needs. When we allow emotions to exist, we can actually gain strength from them and find a more suitable path forward.

Everyone experiences periods of emotional lows; it’s a natural part of life. The key is not to avoid it but to learn healthy ways to cope. Here are 12 effective methods to help you regain balance and strength.

 

1. Perceive Your Emotions: Recognize what you’re feeling and accept its presence without self-criticism.
2. Write a Journal: Use writing to sort out your thoughts and clarify the underlying causes of your feelings.
3. Practice Mindfulness Meditation: Focus on your breath, relax your body and mind, and release anxiety and agitation.
4. Adjust Your Mindset: Believe in your ability to emerge from lows, let go of what’s beyond your control, and view challenges with mindfulness.
5. Read or Draw: Broaden your horizons, ignite creativity, and transform your inner emotions.
6. Get Good Sleep: Put down your phone, create a comfortable sleeping environment, and allow your body and mind to rest.
7. Disconnect from the Internet: Temporarily turn off digital devices, return to simple life, and savor the present moment.
8. Talk to Someone: Trusted friends or family can provide support and different perspectives, making you feel less alone.
9. Take a Walk and Sunbathe: Sunlight boosts your mood, activates brain cells, and improves emotional well-being.
10. Declutter Your Space: Clean your environment to bring inner calm and a fresh start.
11. Clear Your To-Do List: Tackle procrastinated tasks one by one, gain a sense of achievement, and enhance your sense of control.
12. Seek Professional Help: If your emotions persist and are hard to manage, bravely seek counseling. Professional support can bring deeper healing.

 

Emotional lows are temporary. By using these methods to care for yourself, you can recharge your spirit. Remember, taking care of yourself is not a sign of weakness but the first step toward becoming stronger.

 

 

In our daily lives, we often feel that “change” is an exhausting endeavor. However, building psychological resilience doesn’t necessarily require a drastic overhaul. According to the psychological theory of “Mini Habits,” when an action is so simple that it is “impossible to fail,” the brain finds it much easier to sustain.

Here are ten effortless habits to help you regain a sense of control in your life:

Daily Micro-Exercises:

1. Morning Stretch: Spend 30 seconds stretching in bed upon waking. This activates the parasympathetic nervous system and wakes up both body and mind.

2. Stay Hydrated: Sip some warm water when you feel anxious; staying hydrated helps stabilize your emotions.

3. Three Good Things: Before sleep, recall three “small wins” from your day to cultivate a positive mindset.

4. Three Deep Breaths: When feeling tense, take three deep breaths to rapidly lower your heart rate.

Environmental & Social Tweaks:

5. Clear Your Desk: Spend just one minute a day tidying your workspace to reduce visual stress.

6. Unplug: Step away from screens 10 minutes before bed to prevent “comparison anxiety” from social media from disrupting your sleep.

7. Initiate Greetings: Offer a smile or a greeting to one person daily to build small but meaningful social connections.

Cognitive Micro-Shifts

8. Allow Imperfection: Replace “I must do this perfectly” with “I will do my best” to lighten your psychological burden.

9. Create White Space: During breaks, allow yourself to “zone out” without checking your phone, giving your brain a chance to reboot.

10. Give Praise: Compliment others on their efforts. This “altruistic behavior” actually rewards you with a sense of joy.

Change relies on systems, not just willpower. We suggest picking the easiest habit from this list to start with. Remember, even the least progress is still progress.

Lunar New Year is the perfect time to replan and envision the future. Many people set new goals during this period, hoping to achieve greater growth and breakthroughs in the coming year. However, many goals are difficult to accomplish due to vagueness or unrealistic expectations, leading to a cycle of “planning but not completing, then starting again.” This mainly stems from a lack of specific action plans and ongoing tracking mechanisms.

 

To improve the chances of success, we can apply the SMART goal-setting method. This approach emphasizes:

– Specific: Clearly define the goal.

– Measurable: Establish quantifiable standards to track progress.

– Attainable: Set challenges that match your abilities.

– Relevant: Ensure the goal aligns with your core values.

– Time-bound: Set a clear deadline.

 

Additionally, breaking down large goals into small steps and regularly reviewing progress can help maintain motivation and direction. Systematic goal setting can guide us step by step toward success, turning our New Year’s wishes for 2026 into real achievements. Let’s use these strategies to embrace a brighter future!